APOLOGIA
By Hendrik van
der Breggen
The Carillon, July 10, 2014
Same-sex marriage, Subway sandwiches
A popular internet
argument (meme) dismisses concerns about same-sex marriage by drawing a comparison
to choosing a Subway sandwich. It persuades many, but it's mistaken.
Here's the
argument: "I went to Subway today to get my favorite sandwich. The guy in
front of me ordered a different sub. I was pissed because he didn’t get the
same sub as me, even though it didn’t affect me in any way. This is what people
sound like when they say gay marriage affects them. LOL."
So, just as someone's
choice of a particular sandwich doesn't affect anyone else, and so we shouldn't
be concerned, so too gay marriage doesn't affect anyone else, and so we
shouldn't be concerned. Thus, voicing concerns about gay marriage is silly—laughable.
The argument's
analogy, however, is faulty. The sandwich choice is a personal matter, but the legal
redefinition of marriage is a public policy matter.
Granting legal
status to same-sex marriage affects others in multiple ways.
First, it changes
the public's understanding of the minimal requirement of marriage from (a) the
union of a man and woman who can (at least in principle) reproduce sexually via their union and
nurture their biological children to (b) a union of two adults regardless of their
sexual noncomplementarity, requiring new reproductive methods and new family
structures.
According to political
philosopher Ryan T. Anderson, co-author of What Is Marriage? Man and Woman: A Defense (2012), this change centers marriage on
"consenting adult romance" instead of what's best for children. How?
By emphasizing adult wants so much so that men and women, mothers and fathers, are
made interchangeable when they're not.
Significantly, Anderson
argues, reliable studies from the social sciences strongly suggest parenting by
married biological parents—i.e., biological mother and biological father—is ideal for the well-being of children.
But same-sex
marriage (along with divorce and single parenting) takes society another step
away from this ideal.
Also, McGill
University ethicist Margaret Somerville points out that same-sex marriage
abolishes the child's biologically-based moral right to know and be raised by
both biological parents.
[Significantly, according to Robert Oscar Lopez, president of the International Children's Rights Institute, there are many adults who were raised by gay/ lesbian parents now expressing discontent and concern over same-sex marriage. Lopez and others defend this thesis in Lopez's recent book Jephthah's Daughters: Innocent Casualties in the War for Family 'Equality' (2015).]
[Significantly, according to Robert Oscar Lopez, president of the International Children's Rights Institute, there are many adults who were raised by gay/ lesbian parents now expressing discontent and concern over same-sex marriage. Lopez and others defend this thesis in Lopez's recent book Jephthah's Daughters: Innocent Casualties in the War for Family 'Equality' (2015).]
Furthermore,
according to Somerville, same-sex marriage may normalize In Vitro Fertilization
(IVF) and thereby exacerbate IVF's problems. (IVF creates leftover frozen human
embryos, i.e., human beings; often requires "selective termination," i.e.,
abortion of unwanted implantations/ fetuses; exploits women as surrogates and egg
suppliers; plus threatens to turn children into commodities.)
Also, same-sex
marriage is conceptually wed to a non-fallacious slippery slope. According to
Anderson, once we redefine marriage broadly as committed adult intimacy instead
of the union of a heterosexual couple, why not accept a "throuple"
(rhymes with "couple" but involves three or more)?
The rationale
for "couple" derives from the one-man-one-woman sexual union
requirement—but this requirement has been abandoned. So why stop at two? Why not a polyamorous relationship?
If loving
commitment is a sufficient condition for marriage, and if one man and one woman
are no longer a necessary condition, then if you love X, you should be able to
marry X. But X is a placeholder. (Slate Magazine has published an article arguing in favour of polygamy.)
Finally, religious
liberty is affected. For deeply held religious/ moral reasons many citizens believe
same-sex sexual relations are wrong.
But with legalized
same-sex marriage, public institutions must embrace same-sex marriage as a good that's equivalent to heterosexual marriage. As a result, many public school children are
taught what their parents believe is immoral.
Problems also result
for businesses and private schools that disapprove of same-sex marriage, as wedding
florists, bakers, photographers, and Trinity Western University Law School will
attest.
Voicing concern
about same-sex marriage is not like getting upset about another's choice of
sandwich. Rather, it's like being served a stale sandwich sold under the
advertising slogan "Eat Fresh!" and then explaining it's not fresh.
(Hendrik van der Breggen, PhD, teaches philosophy
at Providence University College. The views in this column do not always reflect the views of Providence.)
For further thought:
- Ryan T. Anderson clearly sets out and develops three negative consequences of same-sex marriage in this 23 minute video presentation. (The subsequent 34 minute Q&A is important, too.)
- See too Ryan T. Anderson's recent presentation at Stanford University: 3 minute highlights video, 55 minute lecture, and 36 minute Q and A.
- For a truly helpful overview of the traditional understanding of marriage as set out in the book What Is Marriage? Man and Woman: A Defense (by Anderson, Girgis, and George), see John G. Burford's Amazon review. (Also, Burford's succinct outline of the Anderson-Girgis-George reply to the gays-are-like-infertile-heterosexual-couples-who-marry objection is very good.)
- See too Ryan T. Anderson's book Truth Overruled: The Future of Marriage and Religious Freedom.
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